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Linda
02-21-2004, 03:08 PM
Big size is super for some women

February 17, 2004


By Rhonda Bodfield Bloom / Arizona Daily Star



There are always going to be some women built like the slim stalks of flowers. There are always going to be others with a more trunklike sturdiness to them.


No aspen is ever going to look like a daisy, and carbs have nothing to do with it.


While we’re light years away from a society in which women don’t gain value based on a fickle genetic pool and the strength of self-denial, there is, perhaps, the faintest little heartbeat of change.


A growing number of pop culture icons have shapes harkening back to the va-va-voom days of Marilyn Monroe. Beyoncé, J.Lo, Pink, Queen Latifah and Catherine Zeta-Jones aren’t cut from the celery-stalk frames of Sarah Jessica Parker and Cameron Diaz but come with varying degrees of curves.


And one look down mall aisles shows young women pouring actual hips into those hip-hugger jeans and flashing real bellies in those midriff-baring tops.


It’s a trend Gale Welter, a University of Arizona nutrition counselor, has noticed. “I do notice women who have fuller figures are not hesitating to wear what Britney Spears might wear. I cannot tell you what’s in their heads. I’d like to sit down and ask them, but I can’t figure out how to do that.”


Norman Weiss, founder of the New York-based Internet fashion company Alight.com, thinks he has the answer. His company, which sells only stylish, larger-size fashions — and quite a few sexy, bare little numbers — doubled in business between 2001 and 2003.


“I’ve been in the clothing business 30 years. The thinking used to be that you couldn’t make certain styles in plus sizes. I can honestly say now that everything goes. If it’s an item that’s fashionable and happening, we’re going to put it on the site and it’s going to sell. I can’t think of an item that didn’t sell because it revealed too much,” Weiss said.


He said that with indie films like “Real Women Have Curves” and celebs like Star Jones in the limelight, there’s been growing acceptance of larger frames. “My customers feel good about themselves, and they’re not afraid to show off what they have,” he said.


Becky Coleman, a local body-image counselor and owner of Ocean Embodiment Center, interviewed women and adolescents at malls and schools for a documentary on the subject. She was struck by a few things. First, there’s a greater consciousness around body acceptance, even if acceptance doesn’t actually happen all the time. And when adolescents were asked what they liked and didn’t like about their bodies, not one of the girls mentioned her weight — something Coleman is still puzzling over.


From teaching at the community college level, Coleman has found that young adults generally fall into two camps. Most have accepted cultural stereotypes of beauty, she said, and there’s a lot of talk about working out and dieting. Then, there are the rebels, the ones who say they respect themselves just the way they are. “I think it’s definitely still in the minority, yet I do think it’s growing,” Coleman said.


Take A.J. Duxbury, a 19-year-old creative writing major at the UA who works out because she wants to be healthy, not because she’s obsessed with her weight. “I’m 5 feet, 10 inches, 160 pounds, and proud of it,” she said.


“I personally don’t wrestle with weight problems, because my family put no importance on that — it was all about what was inside — and I’m very thankful for that.”


She used to worry about it more, she said. “But I just came to the conclusion that it’s not worth it. If that’s what someone’s looking at, then I don’t want anything to do with those types of people.”


But for all that, it’s far too soon to say things are better.


The thin ideal has been ingrained in our culture for a long time. The flapper look took small hips and a flat chest. Judy Garland agonized over her weight. Then came Twiggy in the ’60s and the heroin-chic look of the ’90s.


And we’re vain. The American Academy of Cosmetic Surgery last month reported growth in all areas of cosmetic procedures. Botox treatments were up 11 percent over the previous year, breast augmentation was up 8.5 percent, and liposuction remained the most popular surgical procedure. Shows like “Extreme Makeover” only fuel that trend.


Jennifer Utken, who opened the plus-size fashion store Fit To Be Tried in Tucson in 1983, said it wasn’t until she was 45 that she finally accepted that she’ll never be a small woman. As an aerobics instructor for 20 years, her lightest weight ever was about 200 pounds, and that’s when she was teaching 15 classes a week. She tried low carbs and cabbage-soup diets, and nothing worked. She weighs about 300 pounds now.


“I wish I could have all the hours back that I spent weighing and measuring food and writing everything down in a food diary. My entire life, from 25 on, was an attempt to be smaller than I am, and I’m bigger than I’ve ever been. I’m not going to do it anymore.”


But, she said, she’s finding it harder than ever to find acceptance. “With the advent of gastric bypass, it’s really affected body image. There’s shame now, because it’s almost like there’s no excuse. And with obesity as the new national epidemic, now there’s more resentment from society.”


Tucsonan Emily McGregor, an 18-year-old senior at Catalina Foothills High School, received a Gold Award — the Girl Scouts’ version of the Boy Scouts’ Eagle Award — for a film she did on body image and eating disorders. She’s one of 10 young women in the country being honored next month with the Young Women of Distinction Award, being presented at the nation’s Capitol.


McGregor said her peers are almost entirely consumed with image. Even if they don’t exhibit full-blown disorders, she said, they’re counting calories or purging at the gym — a more acceptable way than hovering over a toilet bowl.


“Yeah, Queen Latifah is out there, but she lost weight. And Oprah is constantly trying to lose weight. Diet is on the news constantly, and we hear all the time that Americans are too fat. People are still very body conscious.”


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Linda
02-21-2004, 03:08 PM
As for the girls flashing more skin, she said, just trying to fit in is a big pull, even if they aren’t built for it. “I don’t think we’re getting more comfortable with larger bodies. Big isn’t becoming beautiful once again,” McGregor said.


At Mirasol, a center for eating-disorder recovery in Tucson, clients sleep on Ralph Lauren sheets, eat lemongrass chicken satay and try to tap into the reason they developed disordered eating in the first place, through a range of explorations from art therapy to clinical hypnosis.


Mirasol psychotherapist Joyce Mann said studies show that 70 percent of American women don’t like their bodies, and other studies have shown that 31 percent of 9-year-old girls experience body-image problems. Boys aren’t immune either, confronted with rippling Batman abs and out-of-scale biceps that mirror Barbie’s unattainable shape.


There are many root causes of body hatred. Many of Mann’s clients learned behaviors from mothers who were critical of their own weight, always commenting that they looked fat or couldn’t eat pizza because it went right to their hips. It taught their daughters that looks were vital. Many became obsessed with weight because they were teased as children and never learned how to cope with that. Or they didn’t know that body changes happen with puberty.


Sometimes, just innocuous comments can trigger body hatred. One of Mann’s clients recalls the start of her own disordered eating after a ninth-grade coach made a flip comment about results of her body-fat analysis.


Mirasol is unique, not only because its owner and some staff overcame eating disorders, but also because group therapy includes women with all types of eating disorders, from anorexics to compulsive eaters. “Most of the women have extreme self-loathing, but they have compassion for the woman sitting next to them,” Mann said. “They begin to see and know that beauty doesn’t have anything to do with what’s on the outside. They all have the same struggle, and it’s how to cope with life and deal with feelings.”


McGregor, the high school filmmaker, said she made her film because young people don’t have tools to deal with body image, particularly because they’ve been raised by mothers groomed on years of Cosmo and Vogue. “People say ‘Love yourself,’ but there’s no help out there to teach you to do that.”


Welter, the UA campus nutritionist, said coming to terms with body image over time is going to require a fine balancing act.


“We don’t want an obese population, because it’s not healthy, and if we don’t do something about that we’re going to be in a ton of trouble. But you don’t want to ruin a person’s self-esteem because she’s not a certain size. Think of all the brain space that would be freed up if you knew this was how you were meant to look.”


Perhaps the best thing to do is look for role models elsewhere. You can argue over whether P.Diddy is making the world better with his rap. But he did a world of good for young people recently when he ran a marathon.


Lauve Metcalfe, a UA physiology research coordinator who has done workshops on body image since the early 1980s, said it’s no wonder people are struggling. Labor-saving devices like remote controls and escalators now save some 600 calories a day. Fast food is ubiquitous, and portions are growing.


“The best thing for people to do is to just take care of themselves. Get back into healthy outlets, whether it’s going to fitness centers or going to the park. I like to encourage people to be their best possible selves.” That’s what Tally Largent Milnes is trying to do after years of stress eating. The 20-year-old biochemistry major at the UA doesn’t look like Jennifer Aniston.


“Right now, I’m OK with it. I’m more focused on enjoying life. I have weeks where I’m a calorie counter and I feel the need to compulsively exercise,” she admitted.


“But within the past two months, I’ve had more of a focus on finding the purity of life. And, for me, that translates into my diet, because I don’t want to pollute my body.”

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toriamae
02-23-2004, 11:17 AM
Body image has always been a huge issue for me, since I have been fat as long as I can remember. (I actually weighed 10 lbs, 11 oz. when I was born. Though I was long, I always say I've been big from day 1)
I think that focusing on health has been the only thing that has made me feel good about myself. Really, it's only been since I started yoga in August that I have felt more at home in my body.

st@ce
02-25-2004, 02:52 PM
I thoroughly enjoyed that article Linda. Body image is big problem for me too so I fully identified with it. Unlike the girls they described who would wear the revealing clothes anyway despite their bigger size, I stay unfashionable till I'm smaller lol. I don't care about following the trends that badly.